York FMS

Helpful guidelines

Listen to each other's views and try not to pull in opposite directions. 

Do your best to carry out the agreed arrangements, and if for any reasons you cannot, let the other parent know as soon as possible. 

Do not interfere unnecessarily while the children are in the care of the other parent. 

Try to co-operate with the other parent in setting similar rules and standards of behaviour for the children 

Do not use your children to relay messages to the other parent. If there is a misunderstanding they may feel it is their fault. 

Communicate directly with each other. 

Do not question your children about the other parent's private life, or speak ill of him or her. These things embarrass children and cause pain. 

Do not make the children feel that loving the other parent means they are being disloyal to you.